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Fear, Worry and Doubt – The Enemies of Your Self.

Fear, Worry and Doubt - The Enemies of Your Self.

Fear, Worry and Doubt – The Enemies of Your Self.

Do you feel sometimes as being in the middle of a desert? When you started you had a clear vision of your goals, but now you don’t know any more whether you are going in a right direction, you have begun to fear, worry and doubt. This is usually the moment we leave the right path and start going around in circles.

I was once doing my research in the Middle East and took a taxi to go somewhere, but my taxi driver didn’t have faith in me, and every time I asked  him to go straight, he turned right or left. Thus, I wasted lot of time driving  around in circles until he decided to trust me and we reached our destination. Worry and fear cause doubt which is the biggest reason of all the failures in  our lives. Our confidence is cut off when we are fearful and worried.

We often let worry take over our lives, as worry is almost our God. Atkinson says that “a man may worry himself to death and yet nothing will be accomplished, but when he transmutes his worry and discontent into desire and belief, then something happens.” 

Rev. Christopher Ian Chenoweth compares worrying to being in a rocking chair. You are rocking back and forth, back and forth – you feel like you are doing something, but you are not getting anywhere. You are just mentally and physically  tiring yourself out. Thinking about all the things that could be wrong or go wrong doesn’t make your life any more controllable or safer.  Mark Twain  said once: “I’ve suffered a great many catastrophes in my life. Most of them  never happened”.

99% of what we worry about, never come to pass. Worry can never accomplish anything. Worry is negative and destructive. William Walker Atkinson claims in his book “Thought Vibration Or the Law of Attraction in the Thought World” that worry is the child of fear – if you kill out fear, worry will die for want of nourishment.

The act of worrying is using your imagination and emotion to create something you do not want. If you are in a situation where you haven’t got any results in  achieving your goals, and you start to question and doubt, you are moving away  from your goals. Joseph Murphy states that our subconscious mind creates our  reality through the pictures we accept  and hold.

If you have been doing affirmations over a period of years and still  getting nowhere, it would be wise to look inwardly at the pictures that you have  been holding about yourself. If you are not sure, if you doubt, then it will not come to pass, because the messages you send to your subconscious mind are controversial and you sabotage your goals. That is why we fail to manifest what  we want.

Brad Yates provides an example how contradictory thoughts influence our manifestation. If we imagine ourselves going to a restaurant and ordering a  hamburger, but immediately as the waiter walks away, you say, “I really  shouldn’t have that. Maybe I should order a salad. Or maybe I should have a  sandwich.” The waiter stands there waiting for you to make up your mind, and you  wonder why you don’t have your hamburger yet.

Our subconscious mind is like this waiter, he can’t serve us if we send contradictory signals to it. Some people  try visualising and affirming what they want for a moment, but then they spend  the rest of the time undoing this creation by worrying and doubting. Joseph Murphy reminds us that when our desires and imagination are in conflict, our imagination invariably wins. Ron Holland confirms it in his book “Eureka Enigma”  by saying that when the words and the pictures are in conflict it is always the pictures that win.

Rev. Chenoweth advises to say to yourself: “The worry stops here!” You must do it at the moment when you  feel worried, not later. Focus only on what you desire. Do not focus on your fear of not achieving your goal. If you doubt it, then it will not come to pass. Chenoweth says that if we see our problem as a heavy rope, it seems to be strong and unbreakable. And yet this rope is made of individual strands.

If you would take it apart, it would be easy to break these strands even with bare hands. If you stop worrying and trying too hard to get solutions consciously, your subconscious mind will solve problems for you, and you start to move intuitively in the right direction.

You have to shift your awareness to your desired reality in order to draw it into manifestation. The key is to feel comfortable with  thinking, talking and acting in a state where your desire is already a reality. This means that you must relax and release all stress related to achieving your  goal.  You have the power to bring yourself into harmony with who you really are – a being that has infinite possibilities of experiencing great success in life.

Ulrica  R.Richmond –    About the Author:

Ulrica R. Richmond produces articles on the power of your mind that can help you succeed in business and in everyday life. 

Tarot card for the week ~ 5 of Pentacles

When the 5 of pentacles appears it signifies a time of hardship, financial worries, worries about health and our general security. So with the times we are all living in it's hardly surprising with so many of us (millions) worrying about all of these things.

This weeks Tarot card is the 5 of Pentacles (10th – 16th August 2020)

So this week spirit have given us the 5 of Pentacles, as always the cards were shuffled and the question asked ” what message do you have for the people, for next week. As always the cards are read on a spiritual, psychic, spiritual led basis.

When the 5 of pentacles appears it signifies a time of hardship, financial worries, worries about health and our general security. So with the times we are all living in it’s hardly surprising the 5 of Pentacles should appear, with so many of us (millions) worrying about all of these things.

So what is the message?

The 5 of Pentacles is basically a “worry card”. If you look at the picture you see a young lady who looks like she has given up, all is lost and she doesn’t know which way to turn. She’s feeling despondent, there is so much others have that she doesn’t. She feels alone, left out, forgotten.

However look at the card more closely and you can see there are 5 pentacles (coins, money) attached to the door, and propped up against the door is a key to open the door. So… is all lost? Should she give in to despondency? or is there something to build on for the future? The 5 coins and the key may seen like nothing at all, but could they be the chance of a new start, a new future for her?

It is so easy for us to fall into the feelings of lack, despondency and understandably for millions of us now it all seems terrifying. What does our future hold? is my job safe? am I going to be laid off/made redundant, How am I going to pay the Rent, Mortgage, Bills, put food ion the table, the worry list is endless.

The message from the 5 of Pentacles is to turn those negative thoughts around. Instead of focusing on what you don’t have, focus on what you do have. Use the sharp focus you have had in looking at the negatives to focus on the positives. Yes I can hear a lot of you saying “that’s easy for you to say”. But the message here is…. If you keep focusing on the negatives are they going to make things better? Will wallowing in the negativity help you or do we then go into the realms of your health deteriorating also through the stress, worry, fatigue, sleepless nights and so on and so on.

Try to look as they say for the “silver lining”, the “Glass half full” instead of the Glass half empty that the 5 of Pentacles is trying to get you to do.

For the week ahead

I will start this week with the words I always say, take some time out for yourself! It is allowed“!

There are millions of us across the world that are in the same situation and in someway or another have been affected by the Coronavirus (Covid 19) pandemic. In the last hours we have seen the reports of the explosion in Beirut and the devastation it has caused, not only to buildings but peoples lives and livelihoods. However we also see the reports of people turning up with brushes and shovels to help each other clean up and start again! The positives from the 5 of Pentacles.

We have all heard the saying that we are facing the “New Normal”, and in a way that’s what the 5 of Pentacles is asking you to do, to change your outlook, your perspective, create for yourself your “New Normal”.

The 5 of Pentacles is asking you what do you have? Look around you, your wife, partner, children, family, friends, the list can easily grow the more you look, because it’s not all about possessions is it? As they say “you can’t take it with you”.

The lady in the card feels she has nothing but she has 5 Pentacles and a key to the door, where might that door lead to? What lies behind it? New opportunities? New growth? New Vision, New Rewards?.

The 5 of Pentacles is saying to you “it’s about the way you choose to see things”, “Your Vision”, “Your Skills”, “Your Self-belief”.

As I have already said I can imagine so many saying “that’s easy for you to say”. But what alternative is there?

Do you choose the negatives of the 5 of Pentacles and fall into depression, desperation, lack of self-belief, ill health, the list goes on…. Or do you choose the positives of the card and start looking for your 5 Pentacles and your key to your door and your “new normal” future.

Until next time…. please take care and stay safe.

Steve Robinson

Tarot Card deck used for reading is The Light Seer’s Tarot by Chris – Anne

Do you worry what people think of you?

WhyDo you find that you change your behaviors based on what other people think? Do you worry that you said the wrong thing? Do you worry how people will react to the choices you make? Do you hope that you make a good impression on others and that you look and sound intelligent? Do you hope that people like you? Do you rush off to put make up on just because someone is coming over to visit you? Do you agree with everyone else’s opinion?

While it is healthy normal behavior to adapt our behaviors to certain situations, sometimes we can get so caught up in worrying what people think of us that we literally lose who we are. It is almost as if we become chameleons – changing our whole personality just to please someone else. It is like being back at school where we are desperately trying so hard to fit in!
We may not be smoking or wearing the latest fashion clothes in order to hang out with the ‘in-crowd’ but we are still trying so hard to conform. We constantly worry about what others think of us and we find our behavior is governed by what we imagine other people believe about us.
It is important to recognize that most of the people we know really do not spend much time thinking about us anyway! Really, it’s true; people do not spend hours each day thinking about us!
Think of the words of Olin Miller:
“We probably wouldn’t worry about what people think of us if we could know how seldom they do.”
Other people really are too busy thinking about themselves and their own lives to be thinking about ours! If you spend your time worrying about what other people think, how do you know they are not doing exactly the same thing and worrying what YOU think of them? Remember, everyone else (even if it does not look like it) is just as self conscious as you are!
Ellen DeGeneres put it best when she said, “…we spend our time thinking about what other people are thinking about us…when all they’re really thinking about is what we’re thinking about them.”
Even if others do think about us occasionally, how do we really know what they are thinking? How can we be 100% sure? The fact is, we usually assume that it is something negative. We actually have no control over other people’s thoughts of us and they may not be thinking about us at all. They may be caught up in their own lives and worries. Realize that you can not control what others think of you. You only have control over what you think of yourself.
If we really could accept how seldom people think of us, and how caught up they are in themselves, we could slash our worry time by 100% and get a lot more fun out of life!
Wayne Dyer said ‘What you think of me is none of my business’
This is so true, the key is to be true to yourself and your own feelings and stop living to try and please other people.
You are setting yourself up lose if you are constantly striving for approval based on other peoples standards and expectations. Yes, of course it feels good to get validation and approval from others, but the problem comes when this is the motivating force in your life.
What is more important is to have the approval of yourself!
Don’t worry about what other people think of you’ by Nick Rallis
I realize that reading the minds of others can often give me grief and pain… ultimately what anybody thinks of me is none of my business. It is all about them, and not about me!
ONE of the ways we give ourselves such a hard time is to MIND READ.

We think we know what people are thinking about us. More often than not, we will be totally and utterly wrong in our thinking.

When somebody is silent or somber we think we have done something to upset them.
When somebody does not return our call or reply to our text message we think we have said or done something to offend them.
When we do not hear from someone for a while we assume they are tired of us.

The truth is that what goes on for another person is seldom about us… usually all about the other person.

We think somebody is being cool towards us when in reality their mind is on something that has happened in their life.

We think somebody does not like us any more but in reality they are just too absorbed in their own life to give us the attention we seek from them… It is never ever about you…It is only ever about them.

If you love yourself enough, you would see that what anybody else thinks of you is none of your business anyway. You are just mirroring someone else who has been in their life, a behavior or someone else or an aspect of themselves. And you know you are doing your best that you are a friendly person that you are loving and giving person. So why worry? Because whatever their mood is like it is not about you. Of course, if someone is continually not being responsive to you and not being much of a friend, then it might be time to find people in your life who are!

There are six billion people on this planet, and no one can really say there are not enough people to strike up relationships with. Trouble is we often home in on people who by their nature or their circumstances will give us the feeling that they are rejecting us even if that is not their real intention. We believe, deep down, that we are likely to be rejected so we create situations and choose people who will make these experiences seem true for us.

So it may be time to make different choices… to choose people in our life who will support and cherish us and will not give us the feeling of being rejected, not good enough or unimportant.

Time to hit the road and meet up with some better travelers and to let others go who pull your energy down or are so self focused that they will never make you feel wanted or needed. So how about not reading the minds of others…just accept them for who they are? And realize just because they are having a bad day does not mean we are going to have a bad day too.

So dear and special friend… do realize that there is nothing wrong with you…be kind and loving to others but do not take it personally when they do not give you the support and love you need…Do open your heart and share what is going on for you…

 

article written by Lisa Phillips

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