I said with yesterday’s card “Let Go” that I had the “feeling” that the spirit world had a theme for you running with the cards at present. The day before it was “Forgiveness”. So run them together in your mind and see what you “feel”. Forgiveness, Let Go and Find your Centre. What do you “Feel”?
The opening sentence of the card is where will start…..
Your outside world is a reflection and a manifestation of what’s going on inside you at this time.
Is it just coincidence the way the cards are coming out of the pack at present or is it synchronicity with a nudge from the spirit world? I will let you decide, my own thoughts are “synchronicity with nudge from spirit”.
If I had been doing this reading last year I would be talking about how crazy, fast and overwhelming our lifestyles have become and how there really isn’t time for a lot of people to just stop and think. We run from one problem to another and often for some, because of the kind of lifestyles they lead, they could be causing some of their problems for themselves.
However over the past months life has had to slow down because of the Coronavirus Pandemic, and now some would say they have too much time on their hands, too much time to think, however thinking and stressing are two completely different things. Because so many now are stressing because their lifestyles have or will have to change to accommodate what is fast becoming known as the “new normal”.
That is what has happened, we have moved from a fast moving, no time to stop, stressful life to a slow moving stressful life. This is why it is so important to “Check in with yourself”.
When was the last time I checked in with myself?
Well when was it? When was the last time you checked in with yourself? I always finish my reading/articles with the words “take some time out for yourself! It is allowed ” and it really is so important to do so. We are a spirit in a human body not a machine, our human bodies can break down or maybe stop completely!
Find time to time just step back just a few minutes from home, family, working life, partners, just life in general and say to yourself “this few moments are just for me!” Close your eyes, take 3 nice deep long breaths, make sure you exhale completely letting all that stale energy out, and feel the release as the stress leaves your body.
We spend far too much time these days worrying about what we haven’t done, what needs to be done, what we haven’t got, what we think we need (I say think we need because most of time for some think is actually really just a want). For some we have become a world of need and greed and stopped caring and sharing. Thinking of “self” in it’s true sense is the last of the things on their list of “needs”.
We all need those few minutes, try it for yourself, take that preciousness time to just stop what you are doing, slow down the mind, switch off the worry and stress, take a few deep breaths, feel the stress leaving the body and “Find Your Centre”
As I always say…. “take some time out for yourself! It is allowed “
This weeks Tarot card is the 5 of Pentacles (10th – 16th August 2020)
So this week spirit have given us the 5 of Pentacles, as always the cards were shuffled and the question asked ” what message do you have for the people, for next week. As always the cards are read on a spiritual, psychic, spiritual led basis.
When the 5 of pentacles appears it signifies a time of hardship, financial worries, worries about health and our general security. So with the times we are all living in it’s hardly surprising the 5 of Pentacles should appear, with so many of us (millions) worrying about all of these things.
So what is the message?
The 5 of Pentacles is basically a “worry card”. If you look at the picture you see a young lady who looks like she has given up, all is lost and she doesn’t know which way to turn. She’s feeling despondent, there is so much others have that she doesn’t. She feels alone, left out, forgotten.
However look at the card more closely and you can see there are 5 pentacles (coins, money) attached to the door, and propped up against the door is a key to open the door. So… is all lost? Should she give in to despondency? or is there something to build on for the future? The 5 coins and the key may seen like nothing at all, but could they be the chance of a new start, a new future for her?
It is so easy for us to fall into the feelings of lack, despondency and understandably for millions of us now it all seems terrifying. What does our future hold? is my job safe? am I going to be laid off/made redundant, How am I going to pay the Rent, Mortgage, Bills, put food ion the table, the worry list is endless.
The message from the 5 of Pentacles is to turn those negative thoughts around. Instead of focusing on what you don’t have, focus on what you do have. Use the sharp focus you have had in looking at the negatives to focus on the positives. Yes I can hear a lot of you saying “that’s easy for you to say”. But the message here is…. If you keep focusing on the negatives are they going to make things better? Will wallowing in the negativity help you or do we then go into the realms of your health deteriorating also through the stress, worry, fatigue, sleepless nights and so on and so on.
Try to look as they say for the “silver lining”, the “Glass half full” instead of the Glass half empty that the 5 of Pentacles is trying to get you to do.
For the week ahead
I will start this week with the words I always say, “take some time out for yourself! It is allowed“!
There are millions of us across the world that are in the same situation and in someway or another have been affected by the Coronavirus (Covid 19) pandemic. In the last hours we have seen the reports of the explosion in Beirut and the devastation it has caused, not only to buildings but peoples lives and livelihoods. However we also see the reports of people turning up with brushes and shovels to help each other clean up and start again! The positives from the 5 of Pentacles.
We have all heard the saying that we are facing the “New Normal”, and in a way that’s what the 5 of Pentacles is asking you to do, to change your outlook, your perspective, create for yourself your “New Normal”.
The 5 of Pentacles is asking you what do you have? Look around you, your wife, partner, children, family, friends, the list can easily grow the more you look, because it’s not all about possessions is it? As they say “you can’t take it with you”.
The lady in the card feels she has nothing but she has 5 Pentacles and a key to the door, where might that door lead to? What lies behind it? New opportunities? New growth? New Vision, New Rewards?.
The 5 of Pentacles is saying to you “it’s about the way you choose to see things”, “Your Vision”, “Your Skills”, “Your Self-belief”.
As I have already said I can imagine so many saying “that’s easy for you to say”. But what alternative is there?
Do you choose the negatives of the 5 of Pentacles and fall into depression, desperation, lack of self-belief, ill health, the list goes on…. Or do you choose the positives of the card and start looking for your 5 Pentacles and your key to your door and your “new normal” future.
Empathy is the capacity to recognise and, to some extent, share feelings (such as sadness or happiness) that are being experienced by another sapient or semi-sapient being.
Someone may need to have a certain amount of empathy before they are able to feel compassion. The English word was coined in 1909 by E.B. Titchener as an attempt to translate the German word “Einfühlungsvermögen”, a new phenomenon explored at the end of 19th century mainly by Theodor Lipps. It was later re-translated (Germanized) into the German language into “Empathie” and still in use there.
Empathy is one of the most important aspects of creating harmonious relationships, reducing stress, and enhancing emotional awareness — yet it can be tricky at times. I consider myself to be quite empathetic, but I notice that with certain people (especially those I don’t like or agree with, and also with myself at times) and in particular situations, my natural ability and desire to empathise can be diminished or almost nonexistent.
I also notice that when I feel empathy for others and for myself, I feel a sense of peace, connection, and perspective that I like. And when there is an absence of empathy in a particular relationship or situation, or how I’m relating to myself, I often experience stress, disconnection, and negativity. Can you relate?
What Is Empathy?
Empathy is not sympathy. When we’re sympathetic, we often pity someone else but maintain our distance (physically, mentally, and emotionally) from their feelings or experience. Empathy is more a sense that we can truly understand, relate to, or imagine the depth of another person’s emotional state or situation. It implies feelingwith a person rather than feeling sorry for a person. And in some cases that “person” is actually us.
Empathy is a translation of the German term Einfühlung, meaning “to feel as one with.” It implies sharing the load, or “walking a mile in someone else’s shoes,” in order to understand that person’s perspective.
What Stops Us From Empathising?
There are a number of things that get in the way of us utilizing and experiencing the power of empathy. Three of the main ones, which are all interrelated, are as follows:
When we feel threatened by another person or a particular situation, it’s often hard to empathise. This makes perfect sense from a survival standpoint (i.e., if someone is trying to hurt us, we want to protect ourselves rather than have compassion and understanding about where they’re coming from).
However, we often feel “threatened” based on our own fears, projections, and past experiences, not by what is actually happening in the moment or in a particular relationship or situation. Whether the threat is “real” or “imagined,” when we feel threatened in any way, it often shuts down our ability to experience empathy.
Judgements are a part of life, we all must make lots of judgements and decisions on a daily basis (what to wear, what to eat, where to sit, what to watch/listen to/read, what to say, and on and on). Making value judgements (the relative placement of our discernment) is essential to living a healthy life. However, being judgemental is a totally different game. When we’re judgemental, we decide that we’re “right” and someone else is “wrong.” Doing this hurts us and others, cuts us off from those around us, and doesn’t allow us to see alternative options and possibilities.
We live in a culture that is obsessed with and passionate about being judgemental. And many of us, myself included, are highly trained in this destructive and damaging “art.” When we’re being judgemental about another person, group of people, or situation, we significantly diminish our capacity to be empathic.
The root of all this is our fear. Feeling threatened is all about fear. Being judgemental is all about fear. And, not feeling, experiencing, or expressing empathy is also all about fear. There’s nothing inherently wrong with fear; it’s a natural human emotion that has many positive aspects to it if we’re willing to admit it, own it, express it, and move through it. Fear saves our lives and keeps us out of trouble all the time.
However, the issue with fear is our denial of it, our secret obsession with it, and our lack of responsibility about it. We deem things, people, or situations to be “scary,” when in truth there is nothing in life that is inherently “scary.” There are lots of things, people, and situations that cause fear in us; however, we make it about “them” instead of owning that the fear comes from within us. When we allow ourselves to be motivated by fear, which often leads to us defending ourselves against “threats,” being judgemental, and more, it becomes difficult, if not impossible, to access the power of empathy.
Where in your life and relationships can you see that feeling threatened, being judgemental, and experiencing fear stop you from being empathic? The more willing you are to look at this, acknowledge it, own it, and take responsibility for it (with compassion for yourself), the more able you’ll be to expand your capacity for empathy.
How to Become MoreEmpathic
There are many things we can do and practice to increase our ability to feel, experience, and express empathy for others, situations, and ourselves. Becoming more empathetic is one of the best ways we can enhance our relationships, reduce our stress level, and feel good about ourselves and our lives in an authentic way.
Here are a few things you can do and think about to become more empathic:
Be Real About How You Feel:
When we’re willing to get real about how we truly feel and have the courage to be vulnerable about it with ourselves and others, we can so often liberate ourselves from the negativity, projections, and judgements that mask what’s really going on. When we’re in a conflict with another person or dealing with someone or something that’s challenging for us, being able to admit, own, and express our fear, insecurity, sadness, anger, jealousy, or whatever other “negative” emotions we are experiencing is one of the best ways for us to move past our defensiveness and authentically address the deeper issues of the situation.
Doing this allows us to access empathy for ourselves, the other person or people involved, and even the circumstances of the conflict or challenge itself.
Imagine What It’s Like For Them:
While it can sometimes be difficult for us to “understand” another person’s perspective or situation (because we may not agree with them, haven’t been through what they’ve been through, or don’t really want to see it through their eyes), being able to imagine what it must be like for them is an essential aspect of empathy.
This is not about condoning inappropriate behaviour or justifying other people’s actions; however, I do believe deep in my heart that no one does or says things that are hurtful to us if they aren’t already feeling a real sense of pain themselves and/or haven’t been hurt in many ways in their own life. Whatever the situation, the more willing we are to imagine what it’s like for them, the more compassion, understanding, and empathy we’ll be able to experience.
Forgive Yourself and Others:
Forgiveness is one of the most important things we can do in life to heal ourselves, let go of negativity, and live a life of peace and fulfilment. Forgiveness has to first start with us. I believe that all judgement is self-judgement. When we forgive ourselves, we create the conditions and perspective to forgive others.
Forgiveness is one of the many important aspects of life that is often easier said than done. It is something we need to learn about and practice all the time. Sadly, we aren’t often taught how to forgive, encouraged to do it in genuine way, and didn’t, in most cases, grow up with very good models or examples of how to forgive.
One of the best books you can read on this subject is called Forgive For Good, written by my friend and mentor Dr. Fred Luskin, one of the world’s leading experts and teachers about the power of forgiveness. This book gives you practical and tangible techniques you can use to forgive anyone and anything. The more willing we are to forgive ourselves and others (and continue to practice this in an on-going way), the more able we’ll be to empathise authentically.
Mike Robbins is a sought-after motivational keynote speaker, coach, and the bestselling author of Focus on the Good Stuff (Wiley) and Be Yourself, Everyone Else Is Already Taken (Wiley). More info: www.Mike-Robbins.com
Emotional freedom means learning how to stay centered in a stressful, highly emotionally charged world. Since emotions such as fear, anger, and frustration are energies, you can potentially “catch” them from people without realizing it. If you tend to be an emotional sponge, it’s vital to know how to avoid taking on an individual’s negative emotions or the free-floating kind in crowds.
Another twist is that chronic anxiety, depression, or stress can turn you into an emotional sponge by wearing down your defences. Suddenly, you become hyper-attuned to others, especially those with similar pain. That’s how empathy works; we zero in on hot-button issues that are unresolved in ourselves.
From an energetic standpoint, negative emotions can originate from several sources. What you’re feeling may be your own; it may be someone else’s; or it may be a combination. I’ll explain how to tell the difference and strategically bolster positive emotions so you don’t shoulder negativity that doesn’t belong to you.
This wasn’t something I always knew how to do. Growing up, my girlfriends couldn’t wait to hit the shopping malls and go to parties, the bigger the better–but I didn’t share their excitement. I always felt overwhelmed, exhausted around large groups of people, though I was clueless why. “What’s the matter with you?” friends would say, shooting me the weirdest looks. All I knew was that crowded places and I just didn’t mix. I’d go there feeling just fine but leave nervous, depressed, or with some horrible new ache or pain. Unsuspectingly, I was a gigantic sponge, absorbing the emotions of people around me.
With my patients, I’ve also seen how absorbing other people’s emotions can trigger panic attacks, depression, food, sex and drug binges, and a plethora of physical symptoms that defy traditional medical diagnosis. The Centers for Disease Control and Prevention report that more than two million Americans suffer from chronic fatigue. It’s likely that many of them are emotional sponges.
Here are some strategies from Emotional Freedom to practice. They will help you to stop absorbing other people’s emotions.
Emotional Action Step ~ How To Stay Centered In A Stressful World To detach from other people’s negative emotions:
First, ask yourself: Is the feeling mine or someone else’s? It could be both. If the emotion such as fear or anger is yours, gently confront what’s causing it on your own or with professional help. If not, try to pinpoint the obvious generator. For instance, if you’ve just watched a comedy, yet you came home from the movie theater feeling blue, you may have incorporated the depression of the people sitting beside you; in close proximity, energy fields overlap. The same is true with going to a mall or packed concert.
When possible, distance yourself from the suspected source. Move at least twenty feet away; see if you feel relief. Don’t err on the side of not wanting to offend strangers. In a public place, don’t hesitate to change seats if you feel a sense of depression imposing on you.
For a few minutes, center yourself by concentrating on your breath: This connects you to your essence. Keep exhaling negativity, inhaling calm. This helps to ground yourself and purify fear or other difficult emotions Visualize negativity as gray fog lifting from your body, and hope as golden light entering. This can yield quick results.
Negative emotions such as fear frequently lodge in your emotional center at the solar plexus. Place your palm there as you keep sending loving-kindness to that area to flush stress out. For longstanding depression or anxiety, use this method daily to strengthen this center. It’s comforting and builds a sense of safety and optimism.
Shield yourself. A handy form of protection many people use, including healers with trying patients, involves visualizing an envelope of white light (or any color you feel imparts power) around your entire body. Think of it as a shield that blocks out negativity or physical discomfort but allows what’s positive to filter in.
Look for positive people and situations. Call a friend who sees the good in others. Spend time with a colleague who affirms the bright side of things. Listen to hopeful people. Hear the faith they have in themselves and others. Also relish hopeful words, songs, and art forms. Hope is contagious and it will lift your mood.
Keep practicing these strategies. You don’t have to re-invent the wheel each time you’re on emotional overload. With strategies to cope, you can have quicker retorts to stressful situations, feel safer, and your sensitivities can blossom.
Imagine for a moment that you are holding your arm out to the side and you just hold it there. No big deal, right? But keep holding it there, and keep holding it there, and keep holding it there. With time your arm will begin to ache and become painful and cause stress unless you do something, you will have to put your arm down because the pain will be too intense.
Stress is very much like this. Stressis exposing yourself to something small over and over again for a short period of time. When it’s just for a short period of time it’s no big deal; however, after repeatedly exposing yourself to this stress over and over again it begins to take a toll on your body. It begins to wear on you and make you susceptible to illness or injury. It can end up as something as slight as aches and pains with muscles to slightly more severe as a cold or even more severe as cancer or heart disease.
A good friend of mine who is a medical doctor once told me that he truly feels that about 80% of his patients he sees are in there because of stress related illnesses. He said that if he could help his patients alleviate the stress, many of them wouldn’t even need to be in to visit him.
Many people wrongly assume that stress is just “bad” things happening to you. This is not true. Many stressful events are wonderful and positive experiences also. For example if you spend a day in a big amusement park, it’s an enjoyable experience yet at the end of the day your body feels the aches and pains of the stress of the day. It was a positive event, yet it stressed your body and mind in many ways.
The same holds true with events, such as weddings and parties. While the event itself is a positive experience and something we enjoy, preparing for the event and making sure things go well, getting through the entire process and finally enjoying the results will often lead you to collapsing in a chair at the end of the day from all the stress it has caused you. So stress is not always just negative events; however, negative stresses seem to be more obvious and stressful to us.
Meditation is a way to give your body “breaks” from this stress. It’s like putting that arm down and resting it and then putting it back up again. For most people, stress is a regular occurrence in life.
Because stress is generally an everyday occurrence for many, I truly encourage meditating twice a day to give our bodies that break. It’s good for you in helping you to grow, find out who you are and develop a healthy, peaceful, wonderful life. It also is a good way to combat stress.
Stress breaks down our bodies much more quickly. Alleviating stress helps to keep our bodies running more smoothly. We all age, it’s a part of life; but also as a part of life is our body wearing down. Much like a car, the better care you take of it the longer it will last.
Meditation will help you maintain your body, much like you maintain your car. It helps you to keep your body healthy and fit. It isn’t a guarantee of staying healthy but it does help our bodies deal with other things that we cannot control that happen in our bodies.
Since stress is a part of our life and is so hard on our bodies, I would like to encourage you to practice meditating regularly to counteract the attack of stress on your body. While meditating is not a guarantee to a healthy body with no illness I can say with confidence that it will help you endure the stressful times when you’re forced to deal with them. It will help both your body and mind, creating a better life in general.