Healing Ourselves

Healing Ourselves. Healing is a conscious process through which an ailing person becomes whole. It is not just “curing the disease,” which is a simpler, more mechanical process.

Healing Ourselves

Healing is a conscious process through which an ailing person becomes whole. It is not just “curing the disease,” which is a simpler, more mechanical process. Healing involves us in who we are, what we have done, and the choices that we have about what to do now. It is an ever more enabling process which goes on and on. The growing movement towards alternative medical practices is not just a disenchantment with the frivolous, symptom oriented practices of conventional medicine. It is as well a movement towards healing – ourselves, our communities, and the larger scope of things around us.

Something within us feels that we are sick unto dying now with our wasteful unconsciousness. This is a planetary phenomenon and a planetary disease, however the healing of it has to be an individual undertaking, focusing on what we can do – not on what we can’t do. It is time to stop projecting, and it is time to understand. Who is responsible for all this mess? It is not “them;” it is us. And it is not us; it is you. And it is not only you; it is also me.

The major advances in technology in this decade are happening in the area of human conscious awareness and in relationships between self and others, and between self and the natural environment. There is a lot of new and useful information available to us now. None of what follows here on woundedness and the healing of it is any truer or any more real than anything you may have have come to think up by yourself, or have maybe read somewhere else. Possibly you have read some of the same books I have on this subject.

This discussion of how we can heal is, in the main, a synopsis of Caroline Myss’ wonderful teachings from her book and tapes entitled, “Why People Don’t Heal, and How They Can.” It is supplemented by some other of my own readings in allied areas. I encourage you to read or listen to Myss’ valuable materials for her very in depth dissertation on the energetic basis of disease and healing.

Healing is work, and it is difficult work. There is a saying that goes, “The right way to get it to go easy is to know that there is no right way, and it doesn’t go easy.” With this challenging introduction, let me affirm that healing is definitely possible. We can each transform our life – not transcend it through detachment as so many spiritual disciplines advise – but actually transform it, through healing the wounds that bind us to our past – wounds that drain us of our precious energy, and that lead to our disease.

The Energy System of the Human Body
There are seven hierarchically arranged energy centres within the human body. Different of the world’s religious, philosophical, and spiritual traditions share in common certain ideas about these energy centres. They have names for them: Hindus call them chakras; for Buddhists they are the seven lotuses; the Tree of Life in the Kabbalah has ten sephiroth which are arranged in seven discrete levels; and in Roman Catholicism there are the Seven Sacraments.

There is a correspondence amongst these traditions as well as to the functions of things in this hierarchical array. Each centre controls the manifestation of energy within its anatomical locale, maintaining the functional integrity of the tissues and organs in its area, and maintaining as well the consciousness or the psychological processes correlated with those anatomical areas. Briefly described, numbered from the bottom up, and mirroring our having been created in the image of God, these seven energy centres are:

CENTRE PHYSICAL PSYCHO/SPIRITUAL First perineum/rectum/anus area Our tribal connections Second pelvis/gonads personal power, money, sex Third solar plexus self-esteem, honour, integrity Fourth heart love Fifth throat will Sixth pituitary gland mind, clarity, wisdom Seventh pineal gland sense of oneness with all, transcendence

(Please note that this list is but a shadow of what Caroline Myss discusses in her books on the body’s energy anatomy. Her original works are highly recommended for the much more comprehensive and detailed rendering which she has developed on this interesting facet of the energetic nature of the human being).

The daily measure of life-sustaining energy from the universe enters our bodies and, in perfect health, circulates unimpeded throughout these different centres, apportioning what is needed here and there to maintain perfect physical health, and all its psychological concomitants of joy, wisdom, creativity, and reverence. This is the true heritage of our humanity – to have life live us this way as fully conscious beings. For most of us, this state of affairs exists as yet in only potential manifestation. It is our possible reality, and I emphasize the word “possible.”

It is our own unconsciousness which interrupts the perfect flow of this universal energy through the circuitry of the body’s energetic system. It is the misappropriation of this energy, stealing and channelling it to support our self-created wounds, that leads from health to disease with its attendant pain. There is a beautiful and revealing depiction in “The Prophet” by Kahlil Gibran, which speaks volumes on the nature of the pain felt in our woundedness:

“Your pain is the breaking of the shell that encloses your understanding. Even as the stone of the fruit must break, that its heart may stand in the sun, so must you know pain. And could you keep your heart in wonder at the daily miracles of your life, your pain would not seem less wondrous than your joy; And you would accept the seasons of your heart, even as you have always accepted the seasons that pass over your fields.

And you would watch with serenity through the winters of your grief. Much of your pain is self-chosen. It is the bitter potion by which the physician within you heals your sick self. Therefore trust the physician, and drink his remedy in silence and tranquillity: For his hand, though heavy and hard, is guided by the tender hand of the Unseen, And the cup he brings, though it burn your lips, has been fashioned of the clay which the Potter has moistened with His own sacred tears.”

This passage captures as well as anything I have come to know of what it is that our pain and disease can truly mean for us. It introduces seeds of an understanding of the sacred responsibility we each have in working to heal ourselves. Without such an orientation to this sacred quality of healing’s quest, it is doubtful that any of us would be able to find any other meaningful motive to embrace what we must in order to put an end to our suffering. With this sacred understanding, the goal becomes not only possible; it becomes positively desirable.

A Word About Woundology
The term “woundology” is a most clever one created by Caroline Myss. Wounds happen to us and mess up our energy flow because of things that we choose to see as being “done” to us by others, or by the adversity of our circumstances. In our day-to-day conversations with others, we often choose to bond with others through this language of woundology.

This is usually an intimate tit-for-tat exchange through which we act to maintain our own wounds, while at the same time supporting others in theirs. What Myss has to say in this context is the somewhat harsh admonition to “Get over it!” I feel that what she intends here is, “Focus clearly on doing the work of getting over it. And then get over it!”

Why we don’t want to Heal
There is an inner psychological block that works against our healing. Misoneism – defined as the fear of change and the hatred of new things – is part of the hard wiring of the human personality. We all manifest this in a variety of ways in our lives. “Better the devil I know than the one I don’t know” is one way of characterizing this element within us. Energetically, this is particularly strong when it comes to the consideration of healing ourselves.

Imagine that we get 100 magical volts of energy every day to operate the perfection of our being. Then imagine that 60 of these volts have become blocked or stored somewhere to support our wounds – and, at the same time, diverted away from one or another of our energy centres. Then imagine that somehow these wounds were to be instantly and magically healed.

The result here would be that, all of a sudden, there would be a tremendous surge of extra energy – 60 more volts of it – coursing through the body’s energy circuits, activating the whole of life in a new and powerful way. What would in effect happen here is that we would no longer be in complete control of our lives. We would lose control over the speed with which change occurs in our life.

Change in our lives is going to occur in any event. This is something to know, and something we need to learn to trust. We hold onto letting go of our pain from the past because we see this as a way of stopping the pain from the future – of controlling the rate of change. It is our misoneism which causes us to prefer our present misery over doing the work of healing it.

It takes real courage to heal. It takes courage and trust in the process – and a conscious willingness to let go and flow with the life that lives us. It’s not that forgiveness – which is the essential mechanism for healing our wounds – scares us; it’s that we’re not ready to have our lives change so rapidly. So, in Myss’ words, “Get over it!” And get on with it. Feel the fear, and do it anyway.

The Five Myths of Healing:

1) My life is defined by my wounds.
This is the core of the woundology experience. This causes us to live and seek out life experiences, relationships, jobs, & etc., that will keep the wounds flourishing. We don’t want to give these up because, amongst other things, we can’t then see ourselves as having anything interesting to talk about. We see ourselves as defined by the wounds we carry around with us, as well as obligated to keep on playing the woundology game with those with whom we associate. Again, the advice here is “Get over it!”

2) Being healthy means being alone.
We really don’t have a model for what the healthy, vulnerable person looks like. We conceive of it as being some sort of perfect state where we no longer need other people in our lives. What we need to learn here is that healing is a process, not a product; that life is a journey, not a destination, and that we are always going to need others in our lives – to learn from, and to teach. We teach by learning, and we learn by teaching, and we need each other for this vital human process to go forward.

3) Feeling pain means being destroyed by pain.
This is a misperception, and a strong one. Misoneism plays a central role here. It helps to understand that pain is not the enemy. Pain is a unique kind of language that speaks to us, and serves to actually move us away from its source. Pain needs to be trusted for what it is, not feared as something that will lead to our demise. (Reread Kahlil Gibran’s poem on pain).

4) All illness is caused by negativity.
This is one of the most popular mythologies about illness. The truth is that this is simply not accurate. All illness is not caused by negativity, yet we hold onto this because of a perverse attraction to the notion of being wrong or negative in our own self-appraisal. This speaks of a weakness in our development in the third energy center, which manifests our self-esteem, self-respect, and personal sense of integrity. So it is necessary to adopt a much softer attitude about this notion that all disease is caused by negativity.

5) True change is not possible.
This is a strong belief. We believe we can maybe change the small things in our life, but we can’t really hope to change the big things. The actual basis of this is a gut feeling that if we make the kinds of changes that we need to do in order to heal, then a lot more than our physical bodies are going to change.

This is true – a whole lot more is going to change. We are going to become an absolutely different person, physically, mentally and emotionally. Again, our misoneism plays into this myth in a strong way. The difference that we face in becoming healed is far scarier to us than is the disintegration of the physical body through organic illness. The courage to heal is a fundamental necessity to get one through this particularly strong myth about healing.

Life is a learning experience. There is never a moment that we are not learning on this planet. Misoneism is quintessentially anti-life. Understand this, trust in the process, and get on with it. While our lessons may look painful, they are actually blessings in disguise. Listen to the meaning in the language of disease, and learn to live the life of surrender- and to experience the joy of it.

Healing requires paying attention to your wounds, becoming familiar with them by developing a capacity for a kind of “second sight.” By second sight, I mean a kind of vision that is transpersonal – something you would see in another, apart from yourself. This involves the dissolving of a measure of one’s own egoism, and it involves learning something more profound about the nature of love. Love is not always “warm fuzzies.” Sometimes it grates on us. Trust that the healing hand “though heavy and hard, is guided by the tender hand of the Unseen.”

Second sight also involves one with a sense of honour. Integrity and honour play a primary role in healing. If you give your word to yourself, you’ve got to keep it. It is not wise to negotiate your honour because this can affect the immune system in a definitely negative way. At this point, it bears telling that the work of healing is not a completely risk free undertaking. Once committed to, it must needs be followed with honour and with integrity. Move into it, stay with it, and remain vigilant for that misoneism stuff.

Five Steps to Healing
Woundedness comes from a loss of spirit – giving its energy away to maintain the wounds. Now that this much is clear, what are we to do about it? Caroline Myss gives the following five steps to healing:

1) You have to force yourself to forgive.
You are not going to want to do it – to forgive. Understand that you do not have to feel that the person you must forgive deserves to be forgiven. That is not the point. You deserve to experience forgiving whoever, and this experience will only come after the fact of completing the effort of forgiveness.

You will never know how precious and how good that feels until after you have done it. This forgiveness need not be done face to face with the other person. It is best not done thus because it is your woundedness. You are the one living with the drama of your resentment or hatred. The other person in your drama may have no inkling whatever of what you’re involved with here. Do it for yourself, and by yourself. (See Step 5 below).

2) We have to redefine healing for ourselves.
Healing is not perfection. It is not over when it feels like it’s over. Life is an art; we will keep on creating things in it, things we may well need thereafter to deal with in the healing context. Think of healing as a day-to-day journey, an every day task that you have to live with. Think of healing as your capacity to walk every day through the stresses and challenges that are in your life, or that may come into your life.

3) Stop asking for the reason why things happen as they do.
Give that up. Overcome the need for the “if-then” rationale. That is only holding on for the mind’s own sake. It can accomplish nothing but to stay your progress, and to waste your valuable time being alive. Move forward without hesitation.

4) Chart a course for the future.
Design your life and activities around a vision that is far away from the wounds you have been living. Force yourself to move in another direction.

5) Have your wounds witnessed three times.
Sit around with others and have your wounds witnessed three times. Don’t go overboard by continuing to go over it again and again. Just three times and you’re done. Avoid slipping into passages where you find yourself needing more and more support. Don’t expect that after this things still won’t hurt, but at least tell yourself, “I’ve been heard. Now I’ve been witnessed. Now I have to get on with my healing.” This is a very powerful way to move your spirit out.

More Advice:
* Stay in present time. Learn to chart your energy and to see when things run off to morbid imaginings or the like, returning to this or that wound. With a requisite vigilance, it is possible to learn when this is happening. You can feel it in your biology. Listen to yourself. Listen to the vocabulary you’re using when you speak to other people. With second sight, you can still have something dramatic or painful going on in your life and still be OK – still be able to relate to others in the present moment.

* Develop a meaningful relationship with reality. Some people prefer to use words like “spiritual” for this kind of reality, or “divine.” I find that calling it simply “reality” makes it more actually accessible in real time and space, rather than putting it “up there and out there” which these other terms have a tendency to do. Life is reality. It embodies synchronicity and it is sacred. Ask deeper questions of life within this context. As sure as God made little green apples, you will find yourself led onward to more useful, productive, and joyous experiences in this life which lives through you. Developing this focus of second sight will make you inwardly stronger, and more real.

This discourse on healing is not the final answer to your life. With all due respect to Caroline Myss – and I mean that because her work, which I have tried to effectively condense herein, is indeed a valuable tool of understanding – the actual answers we seek in life are not forthcoming from the context of any questions we may be motivated to ask of it. The ultimate answer we seek of life is a feeling – a feeling for which we can formulate no corresponding question.

It is like the difference between curiosity and yearning. The curiosity of the mind is able to formulate its relevant questions, but the yearnings of the heart want nothing more than their own fulfillment – and there are no actual questions involved here, just that simple yearning itself. A feeling.

By way of attempting to expand on the relevance of this curiosity of the mind versus the yearning of the heart, there is an eloquent discussion by Richard Tarnas in a beautiful book entitled, “The Passion of the Western Mind.” The author herein describes how, throughout its whole history, the development of the Western mind has been dominated and informed almost uniquely by the masculine perspective.

He says, “The masculinity of the Western mind has been pervasive and fundamental, in both men and women, affecting every aspect of Western thought, determining its most basic conception of the human being and the human role in the world.” I mention this here not in any attempt to explain away the sexism rampant in our society – although that’s not a bad idea – but to underscore something of the strategy that is involved in our process of healing as described by Caroline Myss. Again, there are no final answers here; just some notions about strategy.

The archetype of the masculine in the human psyche is more rational than emotional, and more controlling than permissive in its Promethean struggle to master the universe and all of its elements. Operating alone as it has through the centuries of Western development, separating and defining things in the process of creating an individuated sense of the self, our masculine machinery has managed, ultimately, to isolate and separate man from his natural place in the cosmos. The price paid for this ‘finding the true sense of one’s self’ has indeed been high. And it is worse.

Tarnas does point out that the process he describes here has been a necessary part of the evolution of the Western mind towards its full self-knowledge. However, directing the process of its own evolution in this way has been and yet remains an unconscious activity. The splitting off of the masculine from its natural union with the feminine side of the human psyche has had disastrous consequences. It is this unconsciousness which has caused a profound and primordial woundedness within Western culture as a whole, alienating man from God, from nature, from woman, and even from himself.

These wounds have become so deep and pervasive now as to be threatening the very demise of the culture, and of our very civilization – signs of which may be seen everywhere on the planet. In principle, operating through we individuals as microcosm, it is the expression of this same shadow masculine in us which has similarly served to create all of our own personal sense of woundedness.

Myss affirms that our healing can come about only through forgiveness, a felt experience of releasing and of letting go. A sincere and heartfelt forgiveness is beyond the capabilities of a split-off and isolated masculine operating in the human psyche. Allowing ourselves to actually feel what is needed to be felt here is something of what the feminine side of the human personality is all about. Healing therefore calls us to an inner task of immense proportions. From that sense of necessary power which characterizes the masculine, there is an equally necessary act of heroic sacrifice now being demanded of it in order to allow for our healing.

To heal and be whole we need to sacrifice this seeming strength, to create a willful surrender within this controlling part of our natures, and to embrace the power of the feminine feeling part of ourselves. Only feeling this yearning of the feminine in our natures can heal us. Just the currently operative elements of our shadow masculine side will not and cannot complete this vital process of forgiveness with the full presence and sincerity that can come only of our whole, undivided selves. Healing ourselves is healing our society, our culture, and even beyond.

Such will be the gift to our planet of those who succeed in accomplishing this hieros gamos – the sacred marriage – reconnecting with the masculine and feminine parts of themselves. This alone can make real the possibility of true forgiveness – of ourselves and of others – and of our healing.

Earlier in this essay the points were made that the most significant advances in technology in this decade had to do with human conscious awareness and relationship, and that we are facing the task of learning more about the nature of love. Echoing these sentiments, and the promise they hold for us as evolving human beings, is this quote from Pere Teilhard de Chardin:

“Some day, after we have mastered the winds, the waves, the tides, and gravity, we shall harness for God the energies of love.
Then for the second time in the history of the world, man will have discovered fire.” 

Charlotte KerverAbout the Author:

ChicagoHealers mission is the education and advocacy of natural medicine and a holistic lifestyle.

Japan Earthquake

imagescah2fder 1May we offer our deepest sympathy and send out our prayers for the devastation in Japan and surrounding countries, may those affected find the best peace expected in such a tragic situation. May god and archangel Raphael  bring home safely and painlessly those who are no longer with us ,and as a group may we offer up all of our energy in the form of love & healing to those who are left to pick up the pieces of their torn apart hearts, homes,families and lives. This is so sad it is making me cry. Please everyone take a minute to send as much healing as your body can possibly offer and call on all those in spirit to channel through any healing or help that can be given god bless . xxx


Written by Joanne Wellington for Mediums World
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Breathing Meditation for Self-Healing

Breathing Meditation for Centering and Self-Healing.
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Breathing Meditation for Centering and Self-Healing

One of the first things you need to do when you are choosing to fully engage in a self-healing practice is to quiet your body and mind, bringing your body into a relaxed state that allows healing to occur. Getting to this relaxed state is the challenge and the opportunity. As I discuss at greater length in my book, The Root of All Healing, you cannot heal by will alone. In other words, you can’t make healing happen. You open to healing by allowing it to happen. You use your will to stay true to your commitment to heal by engaging fully in whatever discipline (treatment, practice or therapy) you have chosen to further your wellness.

Some years ago, when I was in immense pain—too much pain to even provide sound healing for myself—I asked the Divine for a means of healing that would help me alleviate my intense pain enough to employ a more robust healing solution. This is the meditation that came to me and I share it with you today

Don’t let the simplicity of this exercise fool you. It is in the attention to your body, energetic expansion and oxygenation that healing is occurring. Many of us need more oxygen in order to heal. We tend to breathe in a shallow manner and as a result the cells of your body don’t get the oxygen they need for optimal functioning.

Breathe as though the breath is a feather. This is another key to the exercise. When your body is in great pain, it often likes to be treated gently. So imagine that your breath is like the softest feather you have ever felt. That feather is gently caressing your cells as you breathe. Notice how quickly your body relaxes in response to this feather-light touch of breath.

Begin by noticing your breath. Notice the air flowing through you and caressing you. Notice where it flows easily through your body and where it seems to stop. Do you breathe slowly, quickly, deeply, shallowly? Free yourself from any judgment about how you are breathing. Do not try to change or control it. Simply notice.

Breathe from the centre of your body to just a few inches outside your body. Fill everything with the breath of air. Feel your whole body engage in the process of breathing. As you do this meditation, if any place in your body feels tight and unresponsive, simply wrap those cells in breath, allowing them to absorb breath whenever they are ready.

Focus on the lungs and work your way down your body. Bring your attention to the top of your lungs, where they attach at the shoulder blades. Breathe into the front of the top of your lungs, then add the sides, then the back. While still breathing into the upper portion of the lungs, focus into the lower half of your lungs, breathing into the front, sides and back.

Breathe into the solar plexus, while still breathing into your lungs, breathing into the front, sides, and back.

Take the breath further into the area of the digestive organs, breathing once again into the front, sides and back.

Now breathe down into the pelvic bowl, repeating the directional pattern. Take your awareness down into each section of your legs until you reach the tip of your toes. Once you have reached your toes, travel up the spine to the shoulders. Travel your awareness to the base of your spine, and slowly breathe up each vertebra until you have reached the shoulder area.

Breathe into your arms and hands, then return to the shoulders and travel up your spine into the neck and base of the skull, then fill the neck front, sides and back.

Last – breathe into the head. Breathe into your mouth, ears, nose, eyes, front, side and back, finishing with the top of your head. Breathe into your entire body for several breaths, feeling every cell expand and open as you breathe several breaths. Whenever you feel ready, surrender to the breath and allow the breath to breathe you.

When you are feeling nourished and relaxed, return awareness to your physical body. Once again feel the air moving in and out of your lungs. Take a few deep breaths and exhale through your mouth, blowing the air outward. Feel your body. Feel your body sitting or lying against a surface. Wiggle your fingers or toes and slowly bring your consciousness to a greater state of alertness. When you are ready, slowly open your eyes.

Written Misa Hopkins

Misa Hopkins is the author of the best-selling book, “The Root of All Healing: 7 Steps to Healing Anything”, which has been named the first-aid handbook for the new 21st Century consciousness. She is also Spiritual Director and founder of New Dream Foundation, a non-profit organization dedicated to global spiritual family and honouring the sacred feminine. With over 30 years of teaching and training experience, including teaching hundreds of healers, and now as a spiritual counsellor.

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