When you die these 7 things happen to you…

When you die these 7 things happen to you... Chances are, if you were brought up in a religious background you believe that there are only 2 places you can go: Heaven and Hell.

What happens to us when we die? Where does our soul go?  

Chances are, if you were brought up in a religious background you believe that there are only 2 places you can go: Heaven and Hell. If you are a good person and believe the right things, you spend eternity in Heaven. If you are a sinful person, you spend an eternity in hell.  Thankfully, this is a false dichotomy.

On top of the fact that it doesn’t even make sense to think about only 2 options (both of which are eternal), there has been a lot of scientific investigation into what happens when people leave their bodies when it dies and then return after experiencing time in the spirit world. Thousands of near-death experiences have given us the information we need to form a more accurate picture of what awaits us on the other side.  Some do report hellish realms, and almost all report heavenly realms, but there is another side of the coin here that needs to be addressed.

Dr. Michael Newton is a psychologist who specialized in hypnotherapy, where he would put people into hypnosis to bring out any past traumas they experienced in their lives and walk them through the memories into healing.  He soon discovered that he was able to bring people back so far into their memories that they were remembering things that weren’t even taking place in this life anymore.  They were taking place in between lives.

In his books Journey of Souls and Destiny of Souls (which together have sold over half a million copies) he shares case studies that he has gathered over the course of four decades of bringing people back into the memories of their souls journey.  Surprisingly, they all said the exact same things, and coincided very nicely with a lot of the NDE accounts that have occurred.  Here are 7 things which these two fields of study have strongly suggested happen to us when we die:

1) Life Flash

life before your eyes

An extremely common phenomenon within people who are dying is that they see their entire life flash before their eyes.  The brain snaps into hyper-speed mode and starts revisiting your memory databank before your soul separates from your body.

2) You can see your body

soul leaves body

Many people will see their physical body right as they exit it at the moment that consciousness disconnects from the physical body.  You will be able to see your surroundings and the things that are happening around your dead body.  This will not scare you however, because it will feel as natural as anything.  Some people report feeling frustrated or angry over the way they died and wishing that they could go back into their body to seek revenge, but this feeling passes with time as you begin to fall into the Light.

3) The Light

People always report seeing a light when they die.  The light appears off in the distance, and you will slowly be pulled towards it, almost as if you are being pulled by a magnet.  The light is always accompanied by a sense of love and peace.  This is your transition phase back to your home in the spirit world.

4) Seeing dead relatives

dead relatives

Right when you enter into the spirit world after being pulled through the light, you are greeted by loved ones who are there to embrace you and comfort you.  It’s sort of like a reunion.  These are not necessarily your relatives from your current earth life. They may be family members of yours from previous lives who have been with you throughout your whole souls evolution. Essentially, you have family members you don’t currently know about from a totally different bloodline who will greet you as you enter the spirit world.  You will, of course, remember their names and recognize their faces upon return.

It’s important to note here that the souls will take on the image they had in physical form to create a sense of home and familiarity for you.  Souls don’t look like they did on earth necessary.  The body is just a body. The soul is formless, but can take various shapes to serve different purposes.  It is said that advanced souls who have lived many lives don’t necessarily have relatives that greet them, because they understand what the spirit world is about and have been through many times before.  It is said in the books that advanced souls sometimes skip this step because it is not needed for them.

5) Guardian Angels/Spirit Guides

guardian angel spirit guide

You have your own assigned guardian angel, or ‘spirit guide’ depending on which term you like to use better.  Whatever you wish to call them, you will encounter your guide in the spirit world and they will comfort you and make you feel at home.  But, this is also the time where the fun and games are over.  After you experience some of the heavenly realms, duty begins to call. Your guide has been with you and watching you throughout your life, and wants to go over some things with you.  It’s time to take out your report card from the life you just lived:

6) Life Review

life review

You meet with your angels/guides and go over everything that happened in your life.  People report seeing their entire life as a sort of movie film in front of their eyes or on the pages of a book.  You may have to see some things that make you feel ashamed and like you failed, but this is not a time of judgment.  This is a time of review, and discussion about what needs to be improved upon as a soul.  After you see your whole life, you may come to an agreement with your guides to come back to Earth to work on things after a certain period of time in the spirit world.  

7) You Don’t Want To Return

Whenn you die these 7 things happen to you

You feel such an overwhelming amount of peace and love that you don’t want to return.  You don’t have to worry about illness or earthly tasks.  You are boundless, safe, and free. No stress, no pain, and no suffering.

But remember, reincarnation may await you.  You may either volunteer to come back to help other souls on earth, you may NEED to come back to alleviate Karma, or you may choose to come back to evolve more as a soul and experience the richness of life.

Keep in mind, these are what thousands of people have been saying about their memories/experiences of the afterlife, and these conclusions are being drawn from forty years of professional work.  I personally confidently believe in the reality of such a process, as I think it makes the most sense and is well supported by evidence

That being said, there are people who report going to realms which resemble Hell where they see demons and other nasty things.  We can’t turn a blind eye to the reality of dark realms just because they may scare us.  Although Dr. Newton did not report any such findings, many people who have had NDEs have had very frightening experiences which had deterred them away from bad behaviour and inspired them to live better lives.

The main thing to take away from this, is that you are taken care of.  You are infinitely loved and will be looked after.  There is no death, only transition. You WILL get to reunite with the souls of loved ones, and you will experience magical realms. Peace, love, and serenity awaits. But so does accountability.  The destiny of your soul is related to your behaviour as a human being in this life.  That will be good news to some, and for others may inspire the desire to improve themselves.  Either way, we should be asking ourselves the following questions:

How am I treating other souls in this world? What am I doing to help myself and the people around evolve?


Darius Copac am 32, passionate about spirituality, metaphysics, science and psychology. Life coach, speaker and Law Of Attraction certified practitioner. Lead writer for Quantum World: Awaken Your Mind, I like to travel the world and I am an activist.

The Power of Empathy

Empathy is the capacity to recognise and, to some extent, share feelings (such as sadness or happiness) that are being experienced by another sapient or semi-sapient being. Someone may need to have a certain amount of empathy before they are able to feel compassion.

Empathy is the capacity to recognise and, to some extent, share feelings (such as sadness or happiness) that are being experienced by another sapient or semi-sapient being.

Someone may need to have a certain amount of empathy before they are able to feel compassion. The English word was coined in 1909 by E.B. Titchener as an attempt to translate the German word “Einfühlungsvermögen”, a new phenomenon explored at the end of 19th century mainly by Theodor Lipps. It was later re-translated (Germanized) into the German language into “Empathie” and still in use there.

Empathy is one of the most important aspects of creating harmonious relationships, reducing stress, and enhancing emotional awareness — yet it can be tricky at times. I consider myself to be quite empathetic, but I notice that with certain people (especially those I don’t like or agree with, and also with myself at times) and in particular situations, my natural ability and desire to empathise can be diminished or almost nonexistent.

I also notice that when I feel empathy for others and for myself, I feel a sense of peace, connection, and perspective that I like. And when there is an absence of empathy in a particular relationship or situation, or how I’m relating to myself, I often experience stress, disconnection, and negativity. Can you relate?

What Is Empathy?

Empathy is not sympathy. When we’re sympathetic, we often pity someone else but maintain our distance (physically, mentally, and emotionally) from their feelings or experience. Empathy is more a sense that we can truly understand, relate to, or imagine the depth of another person’s emotional state or situation. It implies feeling with a person rather than feeling sorry for a person. And in some cases that “person” is actually us.

Empathy is a translation of the German term Einfühlung, meaning “to feel as one with.” It implies sharing the load, or “walking a mile in someone else’s shoes,” in order to understand that person’s perspective.

What Stops Us From Empathising?

There are a number of things that get in the way of us utilizing and experiencing the power of empathy. Three of the main ones, which are all interrelated, are as follows:

Feeling Threatened

When we feel threatened by another person or a particular situation, it’s often hard to empathise. This makes perfect sense from a survival standpoint (i.e., if someone is trying to hurt us, we want to protect ourselves rather than have compassion and understanding about where they’re coming from).

However, we often feel “threatened” based on our own fears, projections, and past experiences, not by what is actually happening in the moment or in a particular relationship or situation. Whether the threat is “real” or “imagined,” when we feel threatened in any way, it often shuts down our ability to experience empathy.

Being Judgemental

Judgements are a part of life, we all must make lots of judgements and decisions on a daily basis (what to wear, what to eat, where to sit, what to watch/listen to/read, what to say, and on and on). Making value judgements (the relative placement of our discernment) is essential to living a healthy life. However, being judgemental is a totally different game. When we’re judgemental, we decide that we’re “right” and someone else is “wrong.” Doing this hurts us and others, cuts us off from those around us, and doesn’t allow us to see alternative options and possibilities.

We live in a culture that is obsessed with and passionate about being judgemental. And many of us, myself included, are highly trained in this destructive and damaging “art.” When we’re being judgemental about another person, group of people, or situation, we significantly diminish our capacity to be empathic.

Experiencing Fear

The root of all this is our fear. Feeling threatened is all about fear. Being judgemental is all about fear. And, not feeling, experiencing, or expressing empathy is also all about fear. There’s nothing inherently wrong with fear; it’s a natural human emotion that has many positive aspects to it if we’re willing to admit it, own it, express it, and move through it. Fear saves our lives and keeps us out of trouble all the time.

However, the issue with fear is our denial of it, our secret obsession with it, and our lack of responsibility about it. We deem things, people, or situations to be “scary,” when in truth there is nothing in life that is inherently “scary.” There are lots of things, people, and situations that cause fear in us; however, we make it about “them” instead of owning that the fear comes from within us. When we allow ourselves to be motivated by fear, which often leads to us defending ourselves against “threats,” being judgemental, and more, it becomes difficult, if not impossible, to access the power of empathy.

Where in your life and relationships can you see that feeling threatened, being judgemental, and experiencing fear stop you from being empathic? The more willing you are to look at this, acknowledge it, own it, and take responsibility for it (with compassion for yourself), the more able you’ll be to expand your capacity for empathy.

How to Become More Empathic

There are many things we can do and practice to increase our ability to feel, experience, and express empathy for others, situations, and ourselves. Becoming more empathetic is one of the best ways we can enhance our relationships, reduce our stress level, and feel good about ourselves and our lives in an authentic way.

Here are a few things you can do and think about to become more empathic:

Be Real About How You Feel:

When we’re willing to get real about how we truly feel and have the courage to be vulnerable about it with ourselves and others, we can so often liberate ourselves from the negativity, projections, and judgements that mask what’s really going on. When we’re in a conflict with another person or dealing with someone or something that’s challenging for us, being able to admit, own, and express our fear, insecurity, sadness, anger, jealousy, or whatever other “negative” emotions we are experiencing is one of the best ways for us to move past our defensiveness and authentically address the deeper issues of the situation.

Doing this allows us to access empathy for ourselves, the other person or people involved, and even the circumstances of the conflict or challenge itself.

Imagine What It’s Like For Them:

While it can sometimes be difficult for us to “understand” another person’s perspective or situation (because we may not agree with them, haven’t been through what they’ve been through, or don’t really want to see it through their eyes), being able to imagine what it must be like for them is an essential aspect of empathy.

This is not about condoning inappropriate behaviour or justifying other people’s actions; however, I do believe deep in my heart that no one does or says things that are hurtful to us if they aren’t already feeling a real sense of pain themselves and/or haven’t been hurt in many ways in their own life. Whatever the situation, the more willing we are to imagine what it’s like for them, the more compassion, understanding, and empathy we’ll be able to experience.

Forgive Yourself and Others:

Forgiveness is one of the most important things we can do in life to heal ourselves, let go of negativity, and live a life of peace and fulfilment. Forgiveness has to first start with us. I believe that all judgement is self-judgement. When we forgive ourselves, we create the conditions and perspective to forgive others.

Forgiveness is one of the many important aspects of life that is often easier said than done. It is something we need to learn about and practice all the time. Sadly, we aren’t often taught how to forgive, encouraged to do it in genuine way, and didn’t, in most cases, grow up with very good models or examples of how to forgive.

One of the best books you can read on this subject is called Forgive For Good, written by my friend and mentor Dr. Fred Luskin, one of the world’s leading experts and teachers about the power of forgiveness. This book gives you practical and tangible techniques you can use to forgive anyone and anything. The more willing we are to forgive ourselves and others (and continue to practice this in an on-going way), the more able we’ll be to empathise authentically.

Mike Robbins is a sought-after motivational keynote speaker, coach, and the bestselling author of Focus on the Good Stuff (Wiley) and Be Yourself, Everyone Else Is Already Taken (Wiley). More info:

Indigo and Crystal Children

Who are these Indigo and Crystal Children? Am I one? How can I help my own child who seems to be one?

Indigo and Crystal Children

Who are these Indigo and Crystal Children? Am I one? How can I help my own child who seems to be one?

There are many things that we can do to help these new breed of children, but the most important thing to know is that the  Indigo/Crystal phenomenon is the next big step in our human evolution. We all are, in some way or another, becoming more like the Indigo and Crystal people.  The more one chooses to consciously work towards change, the faster the results  will be for that individual.

This new breed of children (which truly isn’t all  that new, just massive amounts now) have come to show us the way as we have  forgotten. They are our mirrors. Which simply means they mirror what is inside  of us, all that needs to change in order to evolve or raise our consciousness. They have come here to help change the vibrations of our lives and to create  peace, balance and harmony.

Therefore, the Indigos have emerged to knock  down the old outdated systems! They are warriors and they are on a mission! They  create chaos everywhere they go. They can sense dishonesty a mile away and are  unable to conform to dysfunctional situations within their homes, schools and  work places. Gone are the days of threatening “wait till your father gets home,”  or “you’ll be suspended,” the Indigos don’t care! They have inner-lie detectors  and will not be manipulated nor fall for hidden agendas.

They are very head  strong and do not like to be told what to do, nor do they want to do it your  way. If we do not break out of our old control habits, threat habits or any  other destructive behaviour, they will show us that we must learn new methods in  order for peace to prevail! This is done through heart connections, with love.

They simply do not have the ability to disassociate from their feelings and  pretend that everything is okay. They respond the best to all situations when  they are treated like a respected adult. If we are acting childish in a  manipulating, hurtful way, they will mirror back to us our own behaviour.

This causes more frustration within ourselves than it does within them! Their goal is  for US to change, not them. Their horns toot “Treat others as you would want to  be treated!” They are not shy in letting you know exactly  what they need. Watch them. They have no hidden agenda. They are our  teachers!

The Indigos are creating chaos with the end result being a peaceful, loving world. Many, but not all Indigos are labelled by the medical  world as Attention Deficit/Hyperactivity Disorder or more commonly known as  ADD/ADHD because they can’t be still, they can’t focus, they bore easily, they  are impulsive and they do things super fast. Giving them medication is not the  answer! That is once again a control factor not to mention all the detrimental health problems including death that occurs from these types of medications. 

Indigo and Crystal children are extremely intelligent and need their minds  stimulated with things they enjoy to do. They have amazing memories and are  gifted souls with an evolved consciousness. They need to be taught in a  different way, through subjects they love that stimulate their whole beings!

We are moving beyond the mind and into the heart. These Indigo children will not  conform to the old ritual text book  teachings. This system is old and needs to be replaced. They are trying to show  the teachers of the school systems that they need a new way of learning. This is  beginning to happen.

How can you tell if you are an Indigo? A good way to  “test” yourself is to answer the following:

  • – Are you always searching  for your greater purpose in life but feel like the world isn’t set up for your  kind?
  • – Do you feel wise beyond your years?
  • – Do you have trouble conforming to the ways of society?
  • – Do you feel out of place in today’s world?
  • – Do you perceive the world very differently than most people around  you?
  • – Do you have strong intuition about certain things that most others do  not?
  • – Do you often feel misunderstood when you try to talk to people about  what’s real?
  • – Do you feel like you were born to accomplish a special mission  in life?
  • – Do you feel isolated and alone in your beliefs?
  • –  Misunderstood by family? Perhaps the black sheep of the family?
  • – Do you feel anti-social unless you are with people of like mind?
  • – Are you emotionally sensitive?
  • – Did you have a difficult childhood?
  • – Do you often feel disempowered by too much authority?

If you can answer yes to these  questions, then you are most likely an Indigo. If you want outside validation  than you may want to find a person who has honed the gift of clairvoyance, the gift of seeing what most people do not. The clairvoyant person while looking at  you or tuning into your energy field, will be able to tell if you are Indigo or not by the colour of your aura which is the invisible energy field surrounding  your physical body. You can also have an aura photo taken to see for yourself  your own colours.

So what can I do to help my child?

Through my  own experience, I have learnt that it is extremely important to have harmonious  energy within our environments, to stay grounded and keep shielded. I believe if  this small piece of advice hit mainstream  schools it would make a huge difference in all the kids temperaments! I am an Indigo/Crystal and a single mom of four Indigo/Crystal children and know first hand that if the energy within our home is ‘off’ the children are wild!

They will be much more aggressive towards one another, more fighting, crying and very restless. They have more temper tantrums and mood swings and refuse any kind of  authority! When the home is energetically balanced, they are much more relaxed,  calm, gentle and peaceful. Ahh, normal kids!

Leaving our energetically  balanced, sacred space to go out into public places, un-protected is a living  nightmare! The change within my children’s temperament is like watching Jekyll and Hyde! Onlookers or unaware people would perceive this to be children that are wild or have had way too much sugar or more commonly “the mother has no  control.” My oldest child especially is affected. He’s ten and has been  diagnosed as ‘ADHD.’

When we finally get back inside our vehicle and start the  drive home, they all will have begun to calm down. (I have adjusted the energy  of our vehicle to be harmonious as well.) Not long after we have entered our  house, usually they have begun to ‘crash’. It’s similar to a sugar high, they are at their peak of explosion in public because of the denser energies and when  they get back into their own frequency they start to burn out because of the  chaos their bodies have experienced! Talk about detrimental to their health.

I  have provided a list of things below that work wonderfully well for us in creating our sacred environment and other things to empower my Indigo/Crystal  Kids.

– BREATHE! Breathing moves energy. When they are frustrated,  scared, hyper, etc. ask them to Stop and Breathe deeply. Inhale through the nose  and exhale through the mouth. Tell them to really exert the out blow, like  blowing out your anger! Make it fun and do it with them.

– Smudge your  home to help clear the distracting vibrations. This needs to be done immediately  after a blow up of any sort and on a regular basis. Make it part of your house cleaning routine! I smudge a lot,  sometimes daily depending upon what the kids have picked up from school. This  truly makes an amazing difference!

– Staying ‘Grounded’ is very  important. There are many methods of how this is done. I personally like  something that is fast and easy to do. Intention and visualizing are quick easy  methods and can be done in a second at anytime, without anyone even noticing! 

The first thing I do is ask Gaia (Mother Earth) her permission for my grounding  cord to enter the core of her being. Then I visualize a clear cord or clear rope coming from my root chakra (tail bone area) and entering Gaia. It grows in  length, and continues to grow until it has been fully anchored into the core of  Gaia.

This grounding cord releases negative energy and also brings in positive  energy. Set your intention to send all the negative energy down this cord,  physically exhale, releasing it into Gaia. After the negative energy has all  been released, with intention bring up the positive life-giving earth energy  with a physical inhale. Thank Gaia and do not worry that this will hurt her, it  doesn’t! Have your kids make a monkey chain cord. It’s the intention that works!

– Staying ‘Shielded’ is also very important. Indigos and Crystals are  extremely sensitive. Their highly tuned energy fields pick up negative emotions  and environmental energy from their surroundings like a sponge which cause  severe mood swings. Imagine being in a room where there are four depressed people, three angry people and the room itself has not been energetically  cleared from all the emotional yuck for years!

The Indigo unknowingly will pick up all this energy and take it on as their own! And people wonder why they are  labelled as ADHD!

Teach them to create and surround themselves with the “bubble  of white light” protection every morning! This repels the negative energy around  them but allows the positive energy to enter. The bubble would look like a soap  bubble with them inside of it.

– EXERCISE. It is important for  exercise to remain a part of all of our lives, but this also helps the  Indigo/Crystal Children to rid themselves of excess energy as their nervous  systems are wired differently than others.

Excellent exercise outlets to release  what they are holding in their emotional, mental, physical and spiritual bodies  are: Martial Arts, Yoga, Karate, Tai-Chi, Dance Classes, Running, Skipping,  Gymnastics: Anything they love that gets them moving!

– Bring nature  indoors. Lots of beautiful plants, rocks, crystals, waterfalls, aquariums  etc.

– A quiet space with no electrical equipment in the room. This is a  room for them to just BE. Do whatever they love to do in their quiet time. Be it  art work, read, puzzles, Lego blocks, etc.

– Nightly baths in sea salt.  Be sure to drink extra water as this pulls toxins from the physical body and  also clears negative energies from the energetic body.

– Put sea salt on  their names with their permission. The salt pulls out all the negative energies  that no longer serve them. Let this sit for 24 hours, then dump the salt into  the toilet.

– The removal of all artificial scents is a must! Use only  the highest quality oils and unscented beeswax candles.

– Play dolphin,  orca, and angelic relaxing music. Screaming chaotic music is only going to  disturb their energy.

– Keep all electrical stuff out of their bedrooms.  They simply can’t tolerate the very dangerous electromagnetic waves these  devices send out. This will help them sleep deeply and peacefully.

– Be  honest with them at all times with no manipulation about all things, toning it  down to their age level. If you don’t you will have a war on your  hands!

– Reiki Energy Healing, Sound Healing, and other alternative  healing methods are recommended for healing, balancing, rejuvenating and  empowering not just Indigos but all of us!

We are moving into a  wonderful new world where peace will reside! That’s a beautiful thing.

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