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Fear, Worry and Doubt – The Enemies of Your Self.

Fear, Worry and Doubt - The Enemies of Your Self.

Fear, Worry and Doubt – The Enemies of Your Self.

Do you feel sometimes as being in the middle of a desert? When you started you had a clear vision of your goals, but now you don’t know any more whether you are going in a right direction, you have begun to fear, worry and doubt. This is usually the moment we leave the right path and start going around in circles.

I was once doing my research in the Middle East and took a taxi to go somewhere, but my taxi driver didn’t have faith in me, and every time I asked  him to go straight, he turned right or left. Thus, I wasted lot of time driving  around in circles until he decided to trust me and we reached our destination. Worry and fear cause doubt which is the biggest reason of all the failures in  our lives. Our confidence is cut off when we are fearful and worried.

We often let worry take over our lives, as worry is almost our God. Atkinson says that “a man may worry himself to death and yet nothing will be accomplished, but when he transmutes his worry and discontent into desire and belief, then something happens.” 

Rev. Christopher Ian Chenoweth compares worrying to being in a rocking chair. You are rocking back and forth, back and forth – you feel like you are doing something, but you are not getting anywhere. You are just mentally and physically  tiring yourself out. Thinking about all the things that could be wrong or go wrong doesn’t make your life any more controllable or safer.  Mark Twain  said once: “I’ve suffered a great many catastrophes in my life. Most of them  never happened”.

99% of what we worry about, never come to pass. Worry can never accomplish anything. Worry is negative and destructive. William Walker Atkinson claims in his book “Thought Vibration Or the Law of Attraction in the Thought World” that worry is the child of fear – if you kill out fear, worry will die for want of nourishment.

The act of worrying is using your imagination and emotion to create something you do not want. If you are in a situation where you haven’t got any results in  achieving your goals, and you start to question and doubt, you are moving away  from your goals. Joseph Murphy states that our subconscious mind creates our  reality through the pictures we accept  and hold.

If you have been doing affirmations over a period of years and still  getting nowhere, it would be wise to look inwardly at the pictures that you have  been holding about yourself. If you are not sure, if you doubt, then it will not come to pass, because the messages you send to your subconscious mind are controversial and you sabotage your goals. That is why we fail to manifest what  we want.

Brad Yates provides an example how contradictory thoughts influence our manifestation. If we imagine ourselves going to a restaurant and ordering a  hamburger, but immediately as the waiter walks away, you say, “I really  shouldn’t have that. Maybe I should order a salad. Or maybe I should have a  sandwich.” The waiter stands there waiting for you to make up your mind, and you  wonder why you don’t have your hamburger yet.

Our subconscious mind is like this waiter, he can’t serve us if we send contradictory signals to it. Some people  try visualising and affirming what they want for a moment, but then they spend  the rest of the time undoing this creation by worrying and doubting. Joseph Murphy reminds us that when our desires and imagination are in conflict, our imagination invariably wins. Ron Holland confirms it in his book “Eureka Enigma”  by saying that when the words and the pictures are in conflict it is always the pictures that win.

Rev. Chenoweth advises to say to yourself: “The worry stops here!” You must do it at the moment when you  feel worried, not later. Focus only on what you desire. Do not focus on your fear of not achieving your goal. If you doubt it, then it will not come to pass. Chenoweth says that if we see our problem as a heavy rope, it seems to be strong and unbreakable. And yet this rope is made of individual strands.

If you would take it apart, it would be easy to break these strands even with bare hands. If you stop worrying and trying too hard to get solutions consciously, your subconscious mind will solve problems for you, and you start to move intuitively in the right direction.

You have to shift your awareness to your desired reality in order to draw it into manifestation. The key is to feel comfortable with  thinking, talking and acting in a state where your desire is already a reality. This means that you must relax and release all stress related to achieving your  goal.  You have the power to bring yourself into harmony with who you really are – a being that has infinite possibilities of experiencing great success in life.

Ulrica  R.Richmond –    About the Author:

Ulrica R. Richmond produces articles on the power of your mind that can help you succeed in business and in everyday life. 

Live Your Life, Your Way

Life is like a road. There are long and short roads; smooth and rocky roads; crooked and straight paths. In our life many roads would come our way as we journey through life.

Live Your Life, Your Way

Life is like a road. There are long and short roads; smooth and rocky roads; crooked and straight paths. In our life many roads would come our way as we journey through life. There are roads that lead to a life of single blessedness, marriage, and religious vocation. There are also roads that lead to fame and fortune on one hand, or isolation and poverty on the other. There are roads to happiness as there are roads to sadness, roads towards victory and jubilation, and roads leading to defeat and disappointment.

Just like any road, there are corners, detours, and crossroads in life. Perhaps the most perplexing road that you would encounter is a crossroad. With four roads to choose from and with limited knowledge on where they would go, which road will you take? What is the guarantee that we would choose the right one along the way? Would you take any road, or just stay where you are: in front of a crossroad?

There are no guarantees.

You do not really know where a road will lead you until you take it. There are no guarantees. This is one of the most important things you need to realise about life. Nobody said that choosing to do the right thing all the time would always lead you to happiness. Loving someone with all your heart does not guarantee that it would be returned. Gaining fame and fortune does not guarantee happiness.

Accepting a good word from an influential superior to cut your trip short up the career ladder is not always bad, especially if you are highly qualified and competent. There are too many possible outcomes, which your really cannot control. The only thing you have power over is the decisions that you will make, and how you would act and react to different situations.

Wrong decisions are always at hindsight.

Had you known that you were making a wrong decision, would you have gone along with it? Perhaps not, why would you choose a certain path when you know it would get you lost? Why make a certain decision if you knew from the very beginning that it is not the right one. It is only after you have made a decision and reflected on it that you realize its soundness. If the consequences or outcomes are good for you, then you have decided correctly. Otherwise, your decision was wrong.

Take the risk: Decide.

Since life offers no guarantee and you would never know that your decision would be wrong until you have made it, then you might as well take the risk and decide. It is definitely better than keeping yourself in limbo. Although it is true that one wrong turn could get you lost, it could also be that such a turn could be an opportunity for an adventure, moreover open more roads. It is all a matter of perspective.

You have the choice between being a lost traveller or an accidental tourist of life. But take caution that you do not make decisions haphazardly. Taking risks is not about being careless and stupid. Here are some pointers that could help you choose the best option in the face of life’s crossroads: · Get as many information as you can about your situation.

You cannot find the confidence to decide when you know so little about what you are faced with. Just like any news reporter, ask the 5 W’s: what, who, when, where, and why. What is the situation? Who are the people involved? When did this happen? Where is this leading? Why are you in this situation? These are just some of the possible questions to ask to know more about your situation. This is important. Oftentimes, the reason for indecision is the lack of information about a situation.

· Identify and create options. What options do the situation give you? Sometimes the options are few, but sometimes they are numerous. But what do you do when you think that the situation offers no options? This is the time that you create your own. Make your creative mind work.

From the most simplistic to the most complicated, entertain all ideas. Do not shoot anything down when an idea comes to your head. Sometimes the most outrageous idea could prove to be the right one in the end. You can ask a friend to help you identify options and even make more options if you encounter some difficulty, but make sure that you make the decision yourself in the end.

Weigh the pros and cons of every option.

Assess each option by looking at the advantages and disadvantages it offers you. In this way, you get more insights about the consequences of such an option.

Trust yourself and make that decision.

Now that you have assessed your options, it is now time to trust yourself. Remember that there are no guarantees and wrong decisions are always at hindsight. So choose… decide… believe that you are choosing the best option at this point in time.

Now that you have made a decision, be ready to face its consequences: good and bad. It may take you to a place of promise or to a land of problems. But the important thing is that you have chosen to live your life instead of remaining a bystander or a passive audience to your own life. Whether it is the right decision or not, only time can tell. But do not regret it whatever the outcome. Instead, learn from it and remember that you always have the chance to make better decisions in the future. And be careful!

Phyllis Wasserman – About the Author:

Daily Guidance ~ A Mothers Love

A Mothers Love is a very special bond for those of us that have been lucky enough to have felt it ( I send my own thoughts a love to those that have not) you know that special feeling it brings.

A Mothers Love

A Mothers Love is a very special bond for those of us that have been lucky enough to have felt it (I send my own thoughts and love to those that have not) if you have then you know that special feeling it brings. I do not normally read the guide books that come with the card decks that I use as I prefer to work with them on an intuitive/mediumistic level and let them speak to me. But I was drawn today to read the guide book for today’s card and felt guided to share this lovely passage from it with you.

“I really never left you. I am in the sun that rises and sets each day, and the gentle breeze that caresses your face. When you feel the sun warm you, know that I’m holding you close in a tender embrace, whispering, ‘I love you my child”.

The love of a mother is quite special and while we don’t want to leave dad’s out, it is a different kind of bond. But then we should remember that we also have the love of a “mother figure” someone who we are lucky enough to meet and feel a motherly “bond” with them. This is also like a Mothers Love.

When the mother card appears in a reading it is usually a sign from spirit for those who’s mothers have passed to the spirit world that “Mom” is wanting you to know that they are close to you, reminding you they love you, that they are trying to inspire, comfort and encourage you, wanting to remind you of the special moments that you shared together.

If you are lucky enough to still have your mother this side of life, there is another meaning to this card also, and that is the possible need for us to give ourselves some “mothering” to “nurture” ourselves a little whether we are male or female.

Life is hard, stressful almost torturous at times, especially the times we are living right now. We all at some stage feel down, feel low and feel in need of some pampering and this card is a way of spirit telling you that it’s okay to pamper yourself, have some down time, take a nap or a nice long bubble bath, go for a nice walk out in nature, whatever makes you feel good and re-energised.

The spirit world are saying… “go on give yourself a great big motherly hug!”

As I always say….  “take some time out for yourself! It is allowed

Until next time please take care and stay safe

Steve Robinson ~ Psychic Intuitive Medium

Oracle Card Deck used for reading: The Spirit Messages Oracle Deck by John Holland

Self-esteem

Self-esteem is the set of beliefs that you have about yourself. It is how good (or bad) you feel about yourself.

What is self-esteem?

Self-esteem is the set of beliefs that you have about yourself. It is how good (or bad) you feel about yourself.


Example self-beliefs that constitute self-esteem:

  1. I’m an excellent writer
  2. I’m a good human being
  3. I’m great at explaining concepts to others
  4. I feel I’m ugly
  5. I’m too fat
  6. I’m not good with people
  7. I’m a bad person

As you see above, self-esteem can be both broad (I’m a good human being) or specific to a certain field (I’m an excellent writer) Also self-esteem is known by many other synonyms such as self-worth, self-respect, self-confidence etc.
Why is self-esteem important?

Success in anything we take up in our life is directly linked to the amount of confidence we have in ourselves. Lack of confidence in oneself or low self-esteem prevents us from achieving our full potential in life. A low self-esteem also prevents us from enjoying life fully. By law of attraction, what we believe about ourselves is what the universe shows to us, and thus in order to attract positive things in our life, it is important that our beliefs about ourselves be positive. Self-esteem is an important Level 4 need in the Maslow’s hierarchy of needs.

For more details about Maslow’s hierarchy of needs, see  article here: Human beings have different types of needs.

Maslow’s hierarchy of needs showing self-esteem as a level 4 need.

Where does self-esteem come from?

Childhood:

A large part of self-esteem comes from our childhood. The quality of relationships we have had with our parents, and the amount of praise you got from them have an effect on self-esteem. It is thus important that we positively acknowledge children for their achievements.

Our own thoughts:

Some people are naturally more positive than others. The kind of self-talk we do to ourselves is thus a big contributor to our self-esteem.

Achievements:  

Success in anything we take up increases our self-esteem. Failures tend to decrease it.

Peers:  

What people around us say to us affects our self-esteem. This can be people from work, family or those we have romantic relationships with.

How can I find out if my self-esteem is high or low?

Here are some general traits of people who have high and low self-esteem. Make a unbiased judgement and find out for yourself.

People with high self-esteem tend to:

  1. Feel confident in their abilities.
  2. They do not fear failure and are willing to ask for help when needed.
  3. Consider themselves equal to other, regardless of specific talents or outward differences they have.
  4. They neither have a superiority complex not inferiority complex.
  5. Stand-up for what they believe, do not feel attacked when they face opposition, and are open to change their beliefs and grow.
  6. Trust their own judgement and do not feel guilty when other people do not like the choices they make.
  7. They learn from the past and plan for the future.
  8. They do not worry too much about the past.
  9. Believe that others accept them, love them or at least find them interesting.Are sensitive to the feelings and needs of others.
  10. Enjoy their life.

Refer to the above as P1 to P10 in order to talk about it. Example – I found myself having P2, P4, and P8

People with low self-esteem tend to:

  1. Be pessimistic about their life, future, and themselves.
  2. Feel bad about many things and thus tend to be hostile and ready to explode.
  3. Are very sensitive to criticism. They feel easily attacked and experience obstinate resentment against critics.
  4. Criticise themselves often and are generally dissatisfied with themselves.
  5. Be fearful of making mistakes, which leads to a state of chronic indecision.
  6. Are unable to say “no” to others and consequently have an excessive will to please others.
  7. Tend to be perfectionistic thanks to their fear of making mistakes.
  8. Condemn the behaviours of others, exaggerates the magnitude of mistakes and find it difficult to forgive others.
  9. Have a general lack of will to enjoy life

Refer to the above as N1 to N9 in order to talk about it. Example – I found myself having N1, N2 and N7

How can I improve my self-esteem?

  1. Be positive. Focus on achievements and talents, rather than shortcomings.
  2. Stretch yourself beyond what you do now.
  3. Do not be hard on yourself. Let go of any mistakes made in the past.
  4. Surround yourself with positive people who encourage you in whatever you take up.
  5. Monitor and celebrate your success. Reward yourself when you achieve milestones.
  6. Take good care of yourself – body, mind, heart and spirit.
  7. Regularly practice self-love. Look into the mirror each day and say ” Wow – How wonderful you are – I Love you !”
  8. Work with a professional coach who can quickly point areas of improvement.

Compassion vs Sympathy

Do you know the difference between compassion and sympathy? Did you even know that there was a difference between the two? If not then I think you are in for a big surprise!

Compassion vs Sympathy

Do you know the difference between compassion and sympathy? Did you even know that there was a difference between the two? If not then I think you are in for a big surprise!

These two emotions are actually so different from each other that they are actually antithetical to each other. Let me explain.

Recall for a moment the last time you felt what you might call sympathy for someone.

Thoughts such as “that poor individual” or “that unfortunate soul” are often associated with what is called sympathy. What such thoughts also convey either openly or covertly is the message that “that person” is a victim, is in some way lesser than others, is deficient in some way and therefore is a diminished human being.

This unfortunately, devalues the Divine Being that is that individual, that lives in their body and that has limitless potential to create whatever they desire.

Now I know that that last statement is one that will be met with great resistance if not some skepticism. After all, you might say, if that were true, then why are most of us suffering here?

Well I might say it is because we have devalued ourselves and diminished our true power by denying the veracity of the very statement in question.

In order to show this more clearly I would like to turn to the emotion we call compassion. Now because many of you confuse compassion with sympathy, i.e. sometimes use them interchangeably thinking that they may mean the same thing, I will define what is meant by the former.

By compassion I mean the following: to recognise that the essence of any human being is a Divine Presence, that human beings are capable of limitless creativity, that they have total choice as to whether they wish to have mastery over their lives vs. being victims of circumstance, and that they desire never to be thought of as anything less than all of this.

Now that I’ve defined what I mean by compassion and I’ve also given a description and example of sympathy I would like to pose some questions to you to drive my point home.

Imagine someone expressing sympathy towards you. Notice how that makes you feel. Does it buoy you up? Does it make you feel better about yourself? Does it boost your self esteem?

Now imagine that the same person showed compassion towards you, given my definition above. Notice how that makes you feel. Does it buoy you up?  Does that make you feel better about yourself? Does it boost your self esteem?

If you’re in touch with your internal emotional life I think that you will see that the first situation likely evokes feelings of inadequacy, weakness, vulnerability, ineffectiveness and low self esteem.

Conversely the second situation will evoke feelings of lightness, strength, confidence, resilience, and high self esteem.

If you are with me so far you will recognize immediately the crucial difference between compassion and sympathy. By the way compassion is another word for Love. Is there another word for sympathy?

So in essence what you are doing when you are recognizing who other people truly are, i.e. Divine Beings, you are expressing your love towards them in the greatest sense of the word. Isn’t this also what you would like others to do for you, to recognize who you truly are?


Written By Nick Arrizza, M.D.

Article Source: EzineArticles.com

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