Love ~ What does it mean to you?
What does love mean to you? There are so may different kinds of love aren’t there? or are there?
A mothers love, a farther’s love, the love you have for your child, the love of a pet, a child’s love for you, a partners love for you, a friends love, your love for a friend or the big one that most struggle with “Love of self”. We could build quite a large list couldn’t we? But the question is are they different kinds of love or are they different depths of love, emotions or even sentiments?
The word “Love” gets used quite a lot these days but how much actual feeling or understanding is there behind it when it’s used. We have all heard someone or had someone say “Love Ya!” but how much real feeling is there behind those words or understanding of them.
Love is of all passions the strongest, for it attacks simultaneously the head, the heart and the senses. Lao TzuLao Tzu
So does the word love still have the same meaning as it did in the past, has it lost it’s depth of feeling, is it used now too much in an almost flippant manner. In times past it took a great deal of strength and courage to even utter the words “I love you”.
But still what is love? Is it a feeling, a passion that attacks the head, the heart and the senses all at the same time as Lao Tzu says. Is it something even more profound than that. Where does it come from? Is it a passion an emotion what is it that creates that inside us that leads us to that ultimate (shall we call it “knowing”) that it is love that we are feeling for a person, animal or even object.
That leads us to another question is “god I love it” the same emotion/feeling/passion as “god I love you”? See what I mean when I ask the question “is the word love used too freely these days, has it lost it’s true meaning?
I have no answer to any of these questions, I really don’t, I’m still searching even after the years I have walked and “felt” on this earth. The one thing I do believe is the “big one” that I mentioned earlier and i’m still working on it to this day, and that is “love of self”. I believe it is the “true” starting point of understanding what love really is. I also believe that we all, if we are honest struggle with the true meaning of self love. We all have memories of things we have done, said, believed or thought that lead us to believe that we can’t love ourselves because…..?
Think of all those questions that rattle through peoples minds. “I mean look at me who could love this”, “I’m not beautiful enough to be loved by anyone”, I’m too fat for anyone to love me”, “I’m too skinny for anyone to love me”, I’m too thick, just not clever enough for anyone to love me” or as I have also heard someone say… “I’m disabled who’s gonna love me”, that one crushed me when I heard someone say that about themselves, more so than some of the other stuff.
‘Beauty in the eye of the beholder’ has a literal meaning – that the perception of beauty is subjective – what one person finds beautiful another may not.
Love from a spiritual perspective a lot of people think is so drastically different, but is it so different? I personally do not believe it is. I believe it is the foundation on which we should build. I also believe it is just something that most have either not learned, understood or have simply forgotten in what has become a fast moving, self centred, self indulgent, “I need”, “me first” world.
We should have respect for ourselves, our bodies and love for ourselves. We should all respect each other, each others bodies (whatever shape, form or colour they may be). and we should all have love for each other. None of us are any more special or “better” than anyone else. We all have something to offer this world, we all have our own unique talents/gifts to offer and we all have “love” to offer, it is inherent in us all. We should all respect and have love for the earth we walk on and all of the lifeforms that share it with us and all of nature itself.
But the question is….. If we can not truly learn to love and understand ourselves can we truly do any of the other stuff?
That brings us back to the original question “Love ~ What does it mean to you?” So please share your thoughts, what does it mean to you?
Look forward to reading your thoughts.
Take care and stay safe.