To forgive really is divine. It takes strength to set aside what is often justifiable anger. It’s much easier to hold a grudge. Yet when we make the choice and allow ourselves to put aside that anger and to forgive those who have harmed us, we actually do ourselves a great service. Making the conscious decision to let go of pain is the beginning of healing. But doing so is challenging because it is easy to become attached to seeing oneself as a victim and to hold onto resentment, even when the person who has harmed us is genuinely sorry. Forgiving someone is both one of the most difficult and one of the most spiritually rewarding choices we can make. Read more>>>>To forgive takes strength to set aside what is often justifiable anger..
What is love? There are many schools of thought and I must say, being based in perception, ‘love’ is highly misunderstood.
Love is an experience. It’s an energy utilized for the highest good. It has nothing to do with a person, place or thing; it’s a feeling, a gift of light, and when we allow it to consume us, it raises our vibration and enhance our lives. On the other hand, if we permit our observations and judgments to overshadow the love we feel for someone else, or ourselves for that matter, we’re no longer fully experiencing love.
Allowing love is challenging. Love is not. Love shows up and inspires us and often times, as soon as something happens we deem unacceptable or less than favorable, we stop dead in our tracks and dismiss the person, place or thing. However, for the courageous, love is something they cling too because they’ve felt the fire and caught a glimpse of the possibilities. Unfortunately, many people believe love is difficult and jump from person to person and circumstance to circumstance because it’s easier to start anew rather than explore the depths of their being. You see, that is what love does. It opens the heart and doors to our core. It causes us to face the shadows in order to embrace the light; yet, so many people are afraid to really look at the dark and will write it off as being the wrong person, place or thing.
I’m here to tell you, there is no such thing as right or wrong; we are simply introduced to experiences that offer beautifully complex opportunities to embrace ourselves in our entirety.
Society tells us there is someone for everyone; that each one of us has a soul mate and so on. What if this was someone’s way of justifying their own pursuit of love? What if anyone is that person, we’re just consumers of the belief that there is only one and choose to pursue that perfect person; yet, when perfection is NEVER found, we adopt the philosophy we’re destined to ‘do’ life alone and settle until we can’t take ‘it’ any longer or that person does show up. It’s no wonder so many people walk around feeling lost and confused. The perfection, as we define it, doesn’t lie in a person, place or thing, it lies in the opportunity to allow love to surround and support us; to break us down and reveal the things we’ve been avoiding and embrace them as a part of us with someone else watching and showering us with the trust, patience and compassion. The biggest problem I see is when one or both people are sold on the concept of finding the right one and feeling discouraged when breakdowns occur.
Breakdowns are opportunities to shift, grow, nurture and persevere! It’s what inspires all forms of art, and the reason I’m writing this article. I’m committed to and believe in the power of love. Is it beautiful and perfect? That depends on your definition and whether or not you’re willing to expand your thinking to embrace the beauty of the shadow and see the perfection in the imperfections.
Love is God’s gift to each of us. It’s a Divine flash light, of sorts, to explore the depths of our individual Universe’s. To reject or resist love is to reject or resist the Divine. To turn away from the light is to buy into one more context: stay away from the light … sound familiar? Oddly enough, we’re actually pursuing the light in our soul, so why on earth do we shy away from the light of another? We are light beings, and allowing the light of another to fuel our fire is God’s greatest gift to be all that we can be. Our shadows are weaknesses that are complimented by the love and strength of another, not something to run from or hide. Allowing another to see this side of us and be the strength we deserve is the greatest sign of gratitude we can give to our self, the other person and most importantly the One ~ the Divine!
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Can we look deeper within ourselves? Can we see that many times our judgements happen due to our
vested interest, when a personal desire goes unfulfilled? If the very same situation would had happened to someone else, then perhaps we may not have judged it the way we did. However when the mind experiences a personal loss, then it is quick to judge, have you noticed this? Many times we judge the acts of others, yet when the same act is committed by us, we are completely accepting of ourselves. This happens to the best of us – this is ego and attachment at play…Read more >>>>Many times we judge the acts of others, How can we not judge!.
Overcoming Nonstop Thinking
Are you aware that your mind is always occupied with thoughts? Are you aware that thoughts constantly demand your attention, dictate your behaviour and reactions?
Do you sometimes feel that your mind is going to explode from nonstop thinking? Can you focus your attention on what you are doing at any moment, or are you constantly distracted by all kinds of thoughts, negative thinking or negative expectations? You need to learn to overcome your nonstop thinking in order to gain control over your attention.
Do you sometimes wish your mind could just stop thinking for a little while, and let you enjoy some rest and peace? Like an engine, it has to rest to avoid wear and tear. It needs some rest from time to time, in order to recharge itself and your body.
The mind often looks like a cluttered room, with no free space and no place to move. When you empty your room it will look bigger and tidied, and it will be more pleasant to be there. So it is with your mind. Remove the clutter – the unnecessary thoughts, the worries and the fears, and your life would look happier and brighter.
You are probably not constantly aware of the restlessness of your mind, because this became a habit and you got accustomed to it, yet, thoughts keep coming and going, occupying your mind every moment of the day, spending up mental and emotional energy, and sometimes making your head ache.
Tension, strain and pressure at work and at home make the mind even more restless, and attract more thoughts into it. Problems, difficulties, fears, worries and hurt feelings increase even more the mental restlessness and lack of inner peace, making you more acutely aware of the swarm of thoughts coming into your mind and making you feel helpless. It is during such times that you desperately feel the need for inner peace and freedom endless thinking.
When you need to focus your attention, study or meditate, you are again confronted with thoughts that swarm into your mind, disturbing and distracting your attention. This also happens when you are worried, angry or emotionally excited. You feel unable to stop the flow of thoughts and emotions that prevent clear thinking, calmness or self-control.
During such times you just want to scream at the mind to stop thinking. You feel that your mind has broken any control and barriers, and that it is working on its own, sometimes to your detriment. It is like being helpless in a rudderless boat in the midst of the ocean, and all you want is some steady and safe land.
It is in times of worry, stress, fear and strain that inner peace of mind is greatly desired and appreciated. Actually, inner peace and freedom from restless and incessant thinking is a great boon anytime and everywhere. It makes you happier, stronger, more confident and happy.
Imagine how it would be to live your life, work, interact with people, read, watch TV, travel or do anything else, without thoughts and worries claiming your attention. Just think how your concentration would become stronger and your five senses sharper! Just imagine how your understanding, comprehension, awareness and intuition will increase!
You need mental and emotional training, in order to overcome nonstop thinking and free yourself the compulsion, and it is a compulsion, to think incessantly and involuntary, and fill your mind with thoughts that weaken you and distract your attention. You also need to develop some degree of inner detachment and mastery over your mind.
There are no short cuts to overcoming nonstop thinking and lack of inner peace. The aim is not to stunt your mind through hypnosis or subliminal programming, but to gain real inner peace, which you can enjoy while staying active, pursuing your goals, and while handling more efficiently and peacefully your daily affairs of life.
Everything worth having requires work and effort. You cannot become a pilot, an Olympic champion or an engineer by listening to a CD, hypnotizing yourself or saying some magic words. Developing inner abilities, such as calming down your mind, is no different.
Here are a few simple things that can help you:
Reduce the amount of time you read the newspapers or watch the news on TV.
Stay away from negative conversations and from negative people.
Don’t hold grudges. Learn to forget and forgive. Nurturing ill feelings and grievances hurts you and causes lack of sleep.
Don’t be jealous of others. Being jealous means that you have low self-esteem and consider yourself inferior to others. Jealousy and low self-esteem, often lead to lack of inner peace.
Accept what cannot be changed. This saves a lot of time, energy and worries.
Every day we face numerous inconveniences, irritations and situations that are beyond our control. If we can change them, that’s fine, but this is not always possible. We must learn to put up with such things and accept them cheerfully.
Learn to be more patient and tolerant with people and events.
Don’t take everything too personally. Some emotional and mental detachment is desirable. Try to view your life and other people with a little detachment and less involvement. Detachment is not indifference, lack of interest or coldness. It is the ability to think and judge impartially and logically. Don’t worry if again and again you fail to manifest detachment. Just keep trying.
Let bygones be gone. Forget the past and concentrate on the present moment. There is no need to evoke unpleasant memories and immerse yourself in them.
Practice some concentration exercises. This will help you to reject unpleasant thoughts and worries that steal away your peace of mind.
Learn to practice meditation. Even a few minutes a day will make a change in your life.
Inner peace ultimately leads to external peace. By creating peace in our inner world, we bring it into the external world, affecting other people too.
Written by Remez Sasson
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Remez Sasson teaches and writes on positive thinking, creative visualization, motivation, self-improvement, peace of mind, spiritual growth and meditation. He is the author of several books, among which are “Peace of mind in Daily Life”, “Will Power and Self Discipline”, “Visualize and Achieve” and “Affirmations – Words of Power”.
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“Every time you abuse a child, every time you hit a child, every time you swear at a child,every time you put fear into a child. Every time you are negative with a child. What are you Educating them into?
You are not educating them into them into “Love”
You are not educating them into them into “Love” you are not educating them into feeling good and liking themselves, you are not educating them into feeling confident and positive you may as well just rip all their friends away from them before they start making them as that is what you’re doing And by god friends are important as a child. What you are doing is crushing their spirit with your negativity, anger, lack of trust and fear and insecurities.You are crushing them with the fact, that YOU don’t really like YOURSELF and are afraid to be REAL!! You are crushing within them the wonder of Life.
Read more >>> Spread love not fear be the best you can be!